required reading for everyone who is currently married and has children or is thinking about getting married and having children .... Grenade or Band-aid.
Seriously. It's good. She is an amazing writer and has a way of making her words connect to pretty much anyone reading it!
I also say this as someone who grew up with divorced parents. They sepereted when I was 9 months old and made it official when I was 3. I have absolutely NO memory of when my family was "together." But I'll tell you, it has affected me that my parents probably never imagined. They thought I wouldn't care becuase I was too little to know. But I wasn't too little to know in school that I only had a mom. I wasn't too little to get jealous when others talked about all the great things they did with the dads, or their moms and dads together. And I wasn't too young when I started to ask myself what was so wrong with me that my dad ... my own dad ... the very man who helped create me ... wanted absolutely nothing to do with me?